Answers to several common sexual confusions faced by women

　　sex frequency

Shortly after her marriage, 28-year-old Ms. Liu has been worried about whether having sex twice a week is too little. According to her close friends, they must do it almost every day. Every time she sees her husband, she always looks like she is still unsatisfied. She feels that he is too little. But for her, twice a week is enough, and even sometimes she has to cater to her husband. As time went by, she began to wonder if she was suffering from frigidity.

American sexologists once proposed a sex formula: "Sex frequency = the first digit of age × 9." According to this formula, for a person in their 20s (20 to 29 years old), her sex formula is 2×9=18, which means that the suitable sex frequency for her is 8 times in 10 days. ； For a person in her 30s (30 to 39 years old), her sex formula is 3×9=27, which means she is suitable for having sex 7 times in 20 days. But there is another statistic: about 13% of people under the age of 30 have sex every day, one-third have sex more than once a week, more than half once a week, and 17% only have sex once a month. The key still depends on whether the couple can find their own point. As long as both parties can maintain that kind of sexual excitement, it doesn't matter how often.

lack of security
　　
Ms. An, a 26-year-old literary worker, recalled a sexual experience when she was 20 years old: “He wanted to try some new changes, but I was reluctant. I was a little scared, but after trying it I started to feel reassured because I saw that he had a lot of fun doing it and I had the most wonderful experience of my life. I still remember that after that, I sat on the bed and laughed unconsciously, as if I suddenly realized, oh, this is what they said! ”

For many women in their 20s, a lack of security is the biggest enemy of sexual pleasure. When they trick their partners into believing they are having sex, they are actually worrying about how they are performing. Therefore, it is particularly important to refuse to accept a bland sex life. Spend a little more time exploring your own sexual interests and letting your partner know the best ways to please you.