Mental health nursery rhymes

1. Emotion awareness version (suitable for 3-6 years old): Little emotions are cute, whether you cry or laugh, just give them a hug and they will go away.

2. Social boundary version (suitable for 5-8 years old): Say "no" if you don't like it, smile when you help others, and don't cry when others say "no"

3. Stress adjustment version (suitable for 9-12 years old): If you fail in the exam, don’t be internally frustrated. Find a way to do it slowly. If you get criticized, don’t be annoyed. I am fine by myself.

Don’t think these sentences are too simple. When I was doing on-site psychological services in a kindergarten in Haidian, I met a little boy in a small class. Before, he would sit on the ground and cry for half an hour whenever he fell over while building blocks. He couldn’t be coaxed. Later, the teacher in his class would hug him and read this slowly every time he cried. After reciting a few emotional lines for less than three weeks, the child fell down again when he touched the building blocks. He patted his chest and recited, "It doesn't matter if you cry or laugh, we will break up after a hug." After saying it, he turned around and pulled the teacher's sleeve to help him put it back together. It was much more effective than saying a hundred times before, "If you don't cry, you are the best."

Of course, this matter is not without controversy. Researchers in the school of developmental psychology generally believe that this kind of jingle should weaken the "required attributes" as much as possible, and do not frequently add disciplinary words such as "be obedient" and "be sensible". The focus should be on "allowing emotions". After all, children must first know "It is normal for me to have emotions" before they can slowly learn to regulate them.； However, some preschool education practitioners from the behavioral school have expressed different opinions, saying that if there is no behavioral guidance at all, the child will still not know what to do after reading. It is best to add clear small actions, such as "hug" and "say no", which can directly correspond to specific behaviors and achieve faster results. My own experience after trying it is that you don’t have to stand on one side, it just depends on the characteristics of the child. For sensitive children, focus more on emotional tolerance. For lively children who can’t sit still, add specific movement guidelines to see how it works.

Oh, by the way, I have seen jingles compiled by many organizations before, with a few words, such as "Mental health is very important, children should remember it, don't cry when you encounter problems, teachers and parents can go to them." It sounds okay, but it is too dry, and the child must read it twice It's annoying to read it over and over, and I can't remember it at all. The essence is that I haven't grasped the rules of children's memory - the short-term memory of a child between 3 and 6 years old can only hold 4 chunks at most. I met a kindergarten teacher in Guangdong before and made up a version in Cantonese: "If you are not happy, just say Li, don't worry if someone complains." It doesn't even rhyme, but all the children in his class can recite it. When a child cries, the children next to him will surround him and recite it. The effect is better than the common version in Mandarin.

If you want to make up a special one for your own children or children in your own class, it’s easy. You don’t need to look up any information, just add words that children usually talk about. For example, children in lower grades of primary schools now like to say "go" and "OK". When you make up, you can change it to "If you are emotional, don't hold it back, say it, it's OK, it's really annoying, run twice, and bad emotions will fly away." The children will take the initiative to follow them, and you don't have to force them to memorize them.

After all, this kind of jingle is just an auxiliary tool. There is no standard answer, and there is no need to pursue any perfect sentence structure. As long as the child understands it, is willing to read it, and can really use it after reading it, it is ten thousand times better than those flashy professional templates.