Emotion management essay 1000 words

The core of emotion management has never been to "eliminate negative emotions" and forcibly maintain "emotional stability", but to establish a dynamic adaptation mechanism of "identification-acceptance-transformation". Any extreme plan that requires complete suppression of emotions or letting emotions vent is of no long-term practical value.

When I was doing on-site EAP consulting at an Internet company two years ago, I met a girl who was in the operation position in 1998. She was criticized in public by her leader for three consecutive project delays. She squatted in the fire escape and cried for 20 minutes, not daring to speak out. She had always believed in the online saying that "mature people should give up their emotions." She was diagnosed with chronic gastritis after holding it in for more than three months. The doctor directly told her, "It's just that the emotions are so blocked that there is no place to vent them, and they are all stored in the stomach." I still often tell consultants about this case. Many people’s misunderstandings about emotional management are fundamentally wrong.

Regarding the path of emotional management, there has never been a unified standard answer in the academic world: the classic psychoanalytic school regards emotions as signals sent by the subconscious mind. It believes that forcibly suppressed negative emotions will not disappear, but will only be transformed into physical symptoms such as headaches and stomachaches. Many good people I have come into contact with all year round have "not fighting back or scolding back". Most of them have chronic gastritis and migraines, which just confirms this judgment. The behaviorist school pays more attention to intervention techniques that can be implemented, such as the widely spread 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method - when you are nervous, name 5 things you saw, 4 things you touched, 3 things you heard, 2 things you smelled, and 1 thing you tasted. The essence is to draw attention away from the emotional whirlpool through sensory stimulation. This method is very effective in dealing with sudden anxiety and anger. I have seen many salesmen use this method to calm their shaking hands before meeting customers and successfully win millions of orders.

The school of positive psychology that has become popular in recent years goes in the opposite direction, advocating not to label emotions as "good or bad": anger is essentially a signal that your boundaries have been violated, anxiety is a reminder that your current abilities or resources are not enough to match your goals, and even unprovoked emo may be your body calling you to stop and rest. I met a 32-year-old product manager before. He always felt that emotional management is about being "peaceful and calm". Every time the development team responded to requests for no reason, he would hold back his emotions. He had saved up his emotions for half a year and exploded directly at the project review meeting. He turned around and resigned, but missed the opportunity. It was his promotion spot. If he had followed his angry mood and said directly, "I have not received synchronization of this demand adjustment, and the temporary change will slow down the progress of the entire project, let's collect the information first and then discuss it." On the contrary, it would not have reached the point where it finally got out of control.

It's interesting to say that I always thought that emotional management was a very high-level academic topic. Until last month when I was on the subway, someone stepped on the white shoes I just bought. The other person walked away without even apologizing. I followed the "emotional stability" requirements I learned before. As a result, I was restless at work all morning and made the wrong plan three times. Later, when I encountered this kind of thing again, I shouted to my back, "Watch it," even if the other person didn't hear me, the anger was released, and I turned around and forgot about it. You see, many times emotional management does not require complex theories at all. You can do whatever makes you feel comfortable, as long as you don't hurt others or delay business.

Of course, this does not mean that all emotions must be vented directly. If your leader criticizes you at the meeting and you just slam the table and leave, the loss will be yours. In the final analysis, there is no unified standard answer to emotional management. You don't have to force yourself to be a "perfect adult" who will never get angry, and occasionally cry for half an hour while squatting on the roadside eating skewers. As long as you can get up and go to work normally the next day, there will be no problem at all. After all, we learn emotional management to make ourselves live more comfortably, not to put another shackles on ourselves. (The full text is about 980 words)