self healing sentences

The sentences that can really help you heal yourself are never the "positive quotes" produced in batches by major content platforms and beautifully formatted. Instead, they are the few words you salvage from your own real experience and carry your own emotional imprint. Those outsiders may not be able to figure it out when they read it, but it is most effective only if you suddenly feel relieved after reading it.

I met a girl, Xiao Zhou, in the consultation room before. The healing sentence saved in her cell phone memo was actually "The tea eggs in the convenience store downstairs are always braised enough." Last year, she suffered a breakup and was laid off at the same time. She squatted by the convenience store window every day for a week and ate tea eggs. The warm yellow light shone on the hot egg shells. When she swallowed the salty egg yolk, she felt that she was still truly alive. Later, every time when her mood hit rock bottom and she felt like she couldn't stand it anymore, she would recite this sentence silently, and she could instantly recall the taste on her tongue at that time, knowing that at least one little thing was still firmly in her hands.

Interestingly, different schools of psychology have actually had divergent views on the effectiveness of healing sentences. Relevant research on positive psychology has indeed proven that high-frequency, clear positive self-suggestion and long-term persistence can effectively improve self-esteem. Many people slowly get out of the dead end of self-denial by repeatedly silently saying "I am worthy of being loved" and "I have the ability to solve problems." But practitioners of existential therapy don’t see it that way. They believe that “forced positivity” that is divorced from real emotions will actually cause emotional depression. It’s so difficult that you want to sit on the floor and cry, but you still force yourself to say “I’m awesome” with your lips stretched out. Instead, it will add a layer of self-condemnation of “I’m not even right to be sad.” Both statements are supported. The core is never whether the sentence itself is correct or not, but whether you feel being caught or pushed away when you read it.

I have been in a trap before, and I have almost 300 so-called "healing quotes" in my favorites, such as "allowing everything to happen" and "life is a wilderness, not a track". They all sound very reasonable, right? Last year, the project I was responsible for failed and I lost a small sum of RMB 100,000. I couldn't sleep until three in the morning every day. I read these sentences, but they were of no use at all. On the contrary, the more I read, the more annoying I became. I always felt that I was not open-minded enough to get out. It wasn't until I packed up my old things and turned to my high school diary that the last page read crookedly, "It doesn't matter if you fail the test this time. You will go watch the sunset on the beach when you are 18." I suddenly cried at that moment - when I was 18, I really went to Sanya, stepping on the sand warmed by the sun, watching the orange waves hitting my ankles layer by layer. At that time, I foolishly made a wish that I could overcome any obstacles in the future. I saved this sentence to the desktop of my mobile phone that day. Every time I look at it when I am so anxious that I can’t breathe, I can really calm down for half a minute.

These broken sentences are actually the emotional candy you secretly hide for yourself when life is good. When you reach a bitter place, you can take a bite out of it and it will be enough to survive that difficult road. You don’t have to go out of your way to find answers in other people’s quotations. One day when a small incident strikes you, just jot it down: Maybe your cat took the initiative to rub your hand today, and a sentence pops up in your mind: “It actually clings to me, I’m not bad.”” ； Maybe you worked overtime until early in the morning and took a taxi. The driver turned to you and said, "Don't be afraid, little girl, I'll drive slower." You wrote this sentence down. ； Or maybe you ate a bowl of noodles that was very satisfying to your taste and casually wrote, "This bowl of noodles is just right spicy. I'm really good at choosing a restaurant."

Many people always think that healing sentences must be gentle and full of positive guidance, but this is not the case at all. I have a friend who works as a planner. Her special healing sentence is the crude "none of your business." Every time she is picked on by a client for no reason, forced to get married by a relative, or dumped by a colleague, she will recite it silently three times in her heart, and she will be able to pull back her internal emotions in an instant. After all, she lives her own life, and what others say does not matter. There is also a child from my hometown. When his stay in Beijing was not going well, he would silently say, "I'll probably go home and plant oranges." When he thought of the orange groves full of fruits on the mountain in his hometown, he felt that he still had a way out and there was no need to carry on.

To put it bluntly, self-healing is a very personal matter, and there is no unified standard answer. You come across a sentence one day, whether it comes from you casually, or it is said by the aunt who sells vegetables on the roadside, or even the garbled words your cat typed on your keyboard, as long as you suddenly feel a soft heart when reading it, or the breath that has been blocked for a long time is relieved, that is the best self-healing sentence that is exclusive to you.