What to do if there is too much psychological pressure

If you really encounter a situation where you are so stressed that you can't breathe, do the "landing technique" for 5 minutes as soon as possible to pull yourself out of the whirlpool of anxiety. It is more effective than reading 10 stress relief strategies or drinking 3 bowls of chicken soup for the soul. Last month, I met a girl who worked in e-commerce operations. She only slept 4 hours a day for three weeks before the big promotion. During the weekly meeting, her boss mentioned that the plan needed to be adjusted. She cried in front of the entire department. After the meeting, she was still holding tissues and felt embarrassed. She said that it was not a big deal but she couldn't control it. This is actually a typical sign of stress overload. Your body has stopped before your reason. If you try to hold it in and pretend that nothing is wrong, it will easily lead to greater emotional problems.

Many people have misunderstandings about dealing with stress. They think that being able to withstand stress is a sign of maturity. They often say, "Who is not stressed now? He is too squeamish to bear this little hardship." Some netizens have argued with me before, saying that if you adjust when you are stressed, isn't it just lying down in disguise? In fact, this is not the case at all. The boundary between normal stress and excessive stress is very simple. It depends on whether you have a meaningless emotional breakdown, a complete lack of enthusiasm for things you were interested in before, or sudden big fluctuations in sleep or diet. If you have two of these conditions, it means that your current stress has exceeded the tolerable threshold, and it cannot be solved by willpower.

I didn't urge her to go back and change the plan immediately, so I asked her to sit in the conference room, holding the ice mineral water just taken out of the refrigerator in her hand, feeling the coolness of the bottle on her fingertips, and slowly counting her breaths. When she counted to the tenth time, she said that the big stone in her chest that had been blocked for several days seemed to be loosened a little. In fact, many times what you feel is weighing you down is not the pile of to-dos at all, but the past mistakes and future worries that you have piled up in your current mind. The more you think about it, the more afraid you become. You need to bring yourself back to this moment first, and then you can slowly sort out the things to come.

Of course, many people think that being stressed essentially means having too much to do, and it will be fine if you just finish everything you need to do. This does make sense, but it depends on the specific situation. If the workload on your hands is so overwhelming that you can't even finish it 24 hours a day, then the best thing to do is not to stay up all night and shoulder it, but to find your superiors to split the tasks and apply for support. I used to have a friend who worked in project management who just accepted death and shouldered the work of three people by himself. In the end, the project was successfully launched. He suffered from stomach bleeding and was hospitalized for a week, which delayed the follow-up progress and was not worth the gain.

When it comes to stress, it’s really like carrying a backpack to climb a mountain. At first, packing two bottles of water and some snacks feels weightless. But after walking for a long time, there are too many chores to pack, and even the lightest things can make your shoulders bleed. Occasionally I would stop and empty out the useless gravel in my bag. This was not because I was being lazy, but because I wanted to be able to walk more steadily and further later.